Make-up Obesity
MAKE-UP obesity
Make-up is a good term for cosmetics, because women use cosmetics to 'make-up'
for what they feel their DNA or aging has cheated them out of.
The same is true with overeating.
A lot of people overeat to make-up for what they feel life has cheated them out of.
One evening, my wife and I were sitting in our car in the parking lot of a buffet,
waiting for relatives to arrive, so we could visit over a meal.
After watching several overweight and many truly obese people go in,
a thought struck me,
"This is the one place where these folks can get all they want, at least of something.'"
And this applied to me at the time.
If you are unhappy with your weight, you also need to be unhappy with your eating habits.
Ask yourself, 'What am I missing in life that I use food to compensate for?'
Here is a list that applies to me:
* Fewer opportunities that I would like to have. Even though I am always trying to learn
something new - so I can try something new, opportunities often evade me. So I want to eat.
* When opportunities arise, but I bungle them, I want to eat.
* When I don't try something I want to do - because I feel inadequate - I want to eat.
* Boredom. I hate not having something to do. So, I want to eat.
* I want to eat when celebrating.
* I want to eat when mourning.
I'm nearly 70, and still work a few hours each day, 5-6 days a week,
partly because - if I completely retire, I might eat all day long.
Shaming
One issue in the obesity matrix is respect.
Nearly all people crave respect.
But some lifestyles are difficult to respect
because those lifestyles are consumed by a lack of self-control.
Self-control is a respectable trait, and a life guided by self-control is a respectable life.
Self-control is vital for being a decent human, acquiring knowledge, learning artisanal skills, pursuing athletic accomplishments, keeping a long-lasting marriage, for good parenting, etc.
Obesity is a lifestyle where lack of self-control is obvious,
and it can dampen a person's possibilities in life,
and it lowers the level of respect offered, which can dampen future opportunities.
And... disrespect for obesity brought to a vocal level is called 'shaming'.
It is a result of disrespect for a publicly-evident lack of self-control.
a downstream consequence of obesity?
Let's make this quick...
I know a couple of men younger than I -
from two-parent homes -
who struggled with drug abuse for years.
Each of them had an obese parent. I know both families well.
I wonder if the parents' unhappiness created a parenting style
that pointed these young men toward drugs?
Are there any stats on this perspective of addiction?
