Types of 'verts.

Introvert's Party bus

Introverts attract a lot of flak because they are less interested in social interaction.
Why are introverts so hassled about being reclusive?

For one thing, different people require different levels of attention and interaction
Some people can have their attention-needs met by simply saying hello to the checkout clerk at the grocery store. (and some people are so reclusive, they prefer self-checkout).
Other people need to be the one that gives out the samples at that same store, 
chatting with everyone who is trying to get a cheap meal.

An extrovert's deep craving for attention can make introverts look quite bland.
There are many, many attention-addicts in the world.
Some are famous, but most are family, neighbors and coworkers.
Every attention-addict craves an audience.
They look for people to adore them. (that's what it boils down to)
and some of them gaslight introverts who won't worship them.

They interpret lack of adoration as personal rejection.
Some people want you to love them more than you love your own mother.
From Kindergarten to the nursing homes, they play out this script.
They make introverts look dreary and worthy of suspicion......you know it's true.

So, what is the 'normal' way for people to look at life?
I'm not there is a 'standard' way.
Certainly, there is a large group of people who fall between extroverts and introverts.
I actually have a streak of both in me, and I wrestle with it.
INTROVERSION INTRO

5 versions of 'verts.

I suspect there are 5 types of 'verts.

1) True Introverts: These are the real-deal, leave-me-alone kind of people.
     When they see someone they know in the grocery store, they will pretend
     not to see and quickly move to the next isle over. (Some of you are blushing now)
2) Pseudo-introverts: They are the folks that have withdrawn because of difficulties in life,
    but would be more outgoing if they weren't wounded.
    Pseudo-introverts are also those who know that certain tasks require solitude.
    They may be outgoing, but isolate themselves as needed to accomplish certain lifegoals. 
    Most college students need to be introvert-ish to excel in school.
3) Ambiverts: These folks are part true introvert and part true extrovert.
    I am one of these people. We often struggle to keep a balance in life,
    When i go to a restaurant, i will walk through, looking for someone i know,
     but then, i am half-disappointed, yet half-relieved when i don't recognize anyone.
4) Extroverts: These are people who love to draw attention to themselves, 
    and have several cunning techniques for doing so.
5) Pseudo-extroverts: These are people that are forced to act like extroverts
    (acting friendly when it is job-related or for a special social occasion like a wedding). 
   
    Orrrrr... when an introvert male has to UP his social game to court a woman.
INTROVERSION INTRO


True Introverts

True introverts are usually low-key, tight-lipped and tend to be frugal,
yet they are often very hard-working.

Remember that one reason for expensive living and big tipping
is to show off and draw attention to oneself. 
For some extroverts, the attention is worth the expense.
Extroverts often spend big and live big... and go broke.

Introverts are the most likely to isolate and accumulate, be it knowledge, money or success.

Almost all people dream of better lives and personal accomplishments.
Introverts have a lot of dreams too, but they work on them quietly.
art: Adolfe alexandrelesrel, 1899

So, do extroverts have a value?

To balance-out this discussion... Yes, actually, they do!
Extroverts have a big part to play in this Planet Earth and in every functional society.

Every great receptionist will have a streak of extrovert, 
especially in doctor's offices that cares for children. 

Sales staff for a company are like the veins that get that get the blood from the heart
to the places it is needed. Extroverted salespeople naturally know how to connect with complete strangers to explore product-compatibility with potential buyers.

Their sales efforts provide the outlet for the product that the engineers - design
and the factory workers produce.

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Sometimes non-extroverts have to do these jobs too.
As a much younger man, I tried selling encyclopedias door-to-door for a time.
I also sold spices and extracts for another company. 
Spices were more fun to sell than encyclopedias,
because more people wanted spices than wanted encyclopedias.

So yes, sometimes non-extroverts have to act like they are pure extroverts, 
just like true extroverts often need to act like introverts, 
like when filling out the dreary paperwork than comes with netting a big sale.

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But the point of this little bit - is to show that extroverts are not enemies of introverts
- unless they resent introverts for not worshiping them.
We can be a team, if we understand each other and respect reasonable boundaries.
knife thrower and assistant

Pseudo-introvert by rejection

Some people act like introverts 
because they have suffered so much rejection and danger in their lives, 
it is easier to live in solitude that to risk further abuse by others.
Life for them is like being a knife-thrower's assistant. 
It's very wearing.

And remember, danger is a form of rejection.
When you are around someone that won't let you feel safe, they are rejecting you...
even if they demand to be near you.

In this website, we will look at several types of rejection/abuse that cause people to isolate.
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