Types of 'verts.
Introvert's Party bus
Introverts attract a lot of flak because they are less interested in social interaction.
Why are introverts so hassled about being reclusive?
Different people require different levels of attention and interaction.
Some people can have their attention-needs met by simply saying hello to the checkout clerk at the grocery store. (and some people are so reclusive, they prefer self-checkout).
Other people crave to be the one that gives out the samples at that same store,
chatting with everyone who is looking for free food.
An extrovert's deep craving for attention can make introverts look quite bland.
There are many, many attention-addicts in the world.
Some extroverts are famous, but most are family, neighbors and coworkers.
Every attention-addict craves an audience.
They look for people to adore them. (that's what it boils down to)
and some of them gaslight and scorn introverts who won't worship them.
They interpret lack of adoration as personal rejection.
Some people want you to love them more than you love your own mother.
From Kindergarten to the nursing home, they play out this script.
They make introverts look dreary and worthy of suspicion......you know it's true.
So, what is the 'standard' way for people to relate to others?
I'm not there is a 'standard' way.
Certainly, there is a group of people who fall between extroverts and introverts.
I actually have a streak of both in me, and I wrestle with it.
Below...
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5 types of 'verts.
I suspect there are 5 types of 'verts.
1) True Introverts: These are the real-deal, leave-me-alone kind of people.
When they see someone they know in the grocery store, they will pretend
not to see and quickly move to the next isle over. (some of you are blushing now)
2) Pseudo-introverts: They are the folks that have withdrawn because of difficulties in life,
but would be more outgoing if they weren't wounded.
Pseudo-introverts are also those who know that certain tasks require solitude.
They may be outgoing but isolate themselves as needed to accomplish certain goals.
Most college students need to be introvert-ish to excel in school.
This group also includes those who are isolated against their will, like Muslim burqa-wives.
3) Ambiverts: These folks are part true introvert and part true extrovert.
i am one of these people. We often struggle to keep a balance in life,
When i go to a restaurant, i will walk through, to see if i know anyone,
but then, i am half-disappointed, yet half-relieved if i don't recognize anyone.
4) Extroverts: These are people who love to draw attention to themselves,
and have several techniques for doing so. Tik Tok is a forensic exhibit of extroverts.
5) Pseudo-extroverts: These are people that are forced to act like extroverts
(acting friendly when it is job-related or for a special social occasion like a wedding).
Orrrrr... when an introvert male has to UP his social game to court a woman.
6) There is a 6th type of person that some might call introverts...
those people diagnosed with Autism. I will not be speaking about autism,
because it is outside the scope of this website.
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True Introverts
True introverts are usually low-key, tight-lipped and tend to be frugal,
Introverts are the most likely to isolate and accumulate, be it knowledge, money or success.
yet they are often very hard-working.
Understand that one reason for expensive living and big tipping
is to show off and draw attention to oneself.
For some extroverts, the attention is worth the expense.
Extroverts may spend big and live big... and often go broke.
Introverts are the most likely to isolate and accumulate, be it knowledge, money or success.
Yet they can be quietly generous.
Almost all people dream of better lives and personal accomplishments.
Introverts have a lot of dreams too, but they work on their dreams quietly.
Almost all people dream of better lives and personal accomplishments.
Introverts have a lot of dreams too, but they work on their dreams quietly.
art: Adolfe alexandrelesrel, 1899
So, do extroverts have a value?
To balance-out this discussion... Yes, they do!
Extroverts have a big part to play in this Planet Earth and in every functional society.
Some great receptionists have a streak of extrovert,
especially in medical offices that cares for children.
Sales staff for a company are like the veins that get that get the blood from the heart
to the places it is needed. Extroverted salespeople naturally know how to connect with complete strangers to explore product-compatibility with potential buyers.
Their sales efforts provide the outlet for the products that the introverted engineers design
and the 'leave-me-alone' assembly line workers produce.
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Sometimes introverts have to do these out-going jobs too.
As a much younger man, I tried selling encyclopedias door-to-door for a time.
I also sold spices and extracts for a different company.
Spices were more fun to sell than encyclopedias,
because more people wanted spices than wanted encyclopedias.
So yes, sometimes non-extroverts have to act like they are pure extroverts,
just like true extroverts often need to act like introverts,
when filling out the dreary paperwork than comes with netting a big sale.
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But the point of this little bit - is to show that extroverts are not enemies of introverts
- unless they resent introverts for not worshiping them.
We can be a team, if we understand each other and respect reasonable boundaries.
knife thrower and assistant
Pseudo-introvert by rejection or abuse
Some people act like introverts
because they have suffered so much rejection and danger in their lives,
it is easier for them to live in solitude that to risk further abuse by others.
Life for them is like being a knife-thrower's assistant.
It's very wearing.
And remember, danger is a form of rejection.
When you are around someone that won't let you feel safe,
And remember, danger is a form of rejection.
When you are around someone that won't let you feel safe,
they are rejecting you as a legitimate person - worthy of respect...
even if they demand to be near you.
In this website, we will look at several types of rejection/abuse that cause people to isolate.
even if they demand to be near you.
In this website, we will look at several types of rejection/abuse that cause people to isolate.